Anal Play ♣ This is generally when the anus may be penetrated with beads, ice, dildos, anal plugs, penis, or fist. Rimming the anus with a finger or toys stimulates the nerves which can create a more intense orgasm. Inserting and playing with one's prostate gland (males) will cause increased orgasm.
Anal Plug ♣ A specially designed dildo, made to be use in the anus that is shaped in a way so that it will not "fall out". Most commonly inserted and left in the anus for a given amount of time. Also used for "ass training" to stretch out the anus and get one accustomed to having something in their ass.
Anal Sex ♣ Any sexual activity involving the anus. Examples are; rimming (oral), Butt / Anal Plugs, Dildos, and penile penetration.
Animal Role Playing ♣ Games in which one or more partners, usually the bottom, takes on the role of an animal. Most common is probably a dog, or puppy boy / girl though horses are also popular. The 'animal' may imitate animal behaviour, wear items such as collars, leads, bridles and so on, or carry out tasks associated with animal behaviour.
Aromas ♣ Play which involves the use of certain aroma therapy to induce relaxation. Also referred to as "poppers". In some instances these can be volatile compounds whose vapours cause temporarily increased heart rates and breathing, muscle relaxation, and a "rushing" feeling in the head. These types of play are popular in the gay and rave scenes, and often used in an S/m context.
Asphyxiation ♣ Commonly referred to as "breath control". Refers to play involving control of or restriction of air and / or oxygen to the brain. Any form of stopping breathing freely including choking, smothering and hoods with tubes, sacks, plastics, etc, is asphyxia. Sometimes used to cause a more intense orgasm. Other examples would be strangling which is compression of the neck or throat area to prevent oxygen to the brain; suffocation involves reducing the level of oxygen available to breathe; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck (remember, all these games are extremely dangerous, either alone or with a partner, and may cause DEATH).
Ball Gag ♣ Toy used in BDSM play, usually made from a rubber or plastic ball and secure in place by a strap or a little string. It is used to prevent a sub from speaking.
Ball Stretching ♣ Play which involves a type of penile constraint attached to weights in order to provide a variety of sensations including discomfort and pain, while stretching the testicles and scrotum.
Bathroom Use Control ♣ Scenes where the Dominant restricts or takes control over the submissive's bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapers, rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age play, and golden shower play.
BDSM ♣ Term that is a combination of 3 acronyms, BD for Bondage Discipline, DS for Domination and Submission and SM for Sado Masochistic.
Bestiality ♣ Play which incorporates the use of animals for sexual pleasure. Not to be confused with animal role playing. It is usually not considered part of BDSM as it is not an activity that follows the "safe, sane and consensual" golden rule of BDSM.
Beating ♣ Striking the body with various objects or the hand. Typically administered as punishment in connection with childhood punishments or for pleasure in a masochist play. For example, the Dominant may administer a "beating" to an unruly submissive.
Being serviced (sexually) ♣ Play which involves that the Dominant instructed the submissive to do exactly how He/She want the submissive to perform sexually.
Biting ♣ Scenes involving biting the skin to induce pain. Although certain types of nibbling/biting are quite safe, extreme biting causing breaking/bleeding of the skin is not recommended and can be dangerous if not carefully done.
Blindfolds ♣ Play which involves temporarily blocking the submissive's sense of sight. This type of play is essential when everyday objects are used to give unexpected sensations. Blindfolds come in many forms from the more expensive leather full head type to the more inexpensive handkerchiefs, scarves, bandages.
Blood Play ♣ Play involving blood. This type of fetish is not very popular for obvious reasons.
Bottom and submissive are the labels used to describe a partner who takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role within a BDSM scene, or within a BDSM relationship context.
Breast / Chest Bondage ♣ The restriction / bondage of the woman's breast / chest area for erotic reasons using various types of fastenings (i.e., rope, scarves, etc.).
Breath Control ♣ Refers to play involving control of or restriction of air and / or oxygen to the brain. Other examples would be strangling, which is compression of the neck/throat area to prevent the flow of oxygen to the brain. Suffocation involves reducing the level of oxygen available to breathe; hanging where the body is suspended by the neck (remember, all these games are dangerous to play, either alone or with a partner).
Boot Worship ♣ boot worship may include sniffing or inhaling from worn boots, as well as licking, kissing or cleaning their exteriors. It may also consist, more passively, of the woman or man lying prone and being "trampled" by her or his dom. Heeled boots may lend themselves to sucking, in an approximation of fellatio.
Bondage refers to the use of restraints for the sexual pleasure of the parties. Bondage is usually, but not always, a sexual practice. It may be used in the context of BDSM or in its own right, as in the case of rope bondage and breast bondage.
Breast Whipping ♣ Whipping of the woman's / submissive's chest area using a variety of items which include: floggers, whips, cat tails and paddles, for erotic purposes.
Bruising ♣ A condition which may occur as a result of pinching or striking. Care should be taken to avoid bruising.
Cages ♣ Construction of a cage can be of wood, steel, fencing material. Used to confine the submissive, for play or punishment.
Caning ♣ Mostly made of bamboo, this whip is by far the most painful. Care should be used, as the welts from caning are slow to rise, and blood can be accidentally drawn if not in constant monitoring. Caning should be limited to the fleshy part of the buttocks, and nowhere else on the body.
Castration Fantasy ♣ This refers to removal of the testicles; however, some people use it for the removal of any/all sexual organs of either sex. The removal of the testicles is sometimes referred to as Emasculation and a man who has had his testicles removed is referred to as a eunuch. This procedure causes permanent and significant changes to the body. Castration fantasies are actually quite common among the heavy S/m players and are played out in scenes involving cock and ball torture (CBT), permanent and play piercing, and even genital shaving. However, few people actually choose to make this fantasy a reality. It should be noted here that this is a serious surgical procedure and not something someone can teach themselves to do safely.
Catheterization ♣ A tube that can be inserted into a body cavity, duct or vessel. Catheters thereby allow drainage, injection of fluids or access by surgical instruments. The process of inserting a catheter is catheterization.
Cattle Prod ♣ An electrical prodding device used to herd animals, more frequently for cattle. Sometimes used in S/m play for "branding" or serious hardcore pain play, and is considered dangerous play.
Chamber Pot Use ♣ Scenes involving the use of the toilet for humiliation and / or control. Generally used for medical scenes.
Chastity Belt ♣ In S/m circles, meaning the banning or physically preventing one (male or female) from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation. A means of domination over one's submissive. A device (lockable) panty type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation.
Chauffeuring ♣ requiring one's submissive to "chauffeur" them around physically in vehicles or other types of transportation.
Chores (Domestic Service) ♣ Scenes where the Dominant requires the submissive to perform chores and / or domestic service in either sexually pleasing clothing (i.e., maid outfits) or naked.
Clothespins ♣ Small pinning devices used for hanging clothes. Generally used in BDSM play as quite effective nipple clamps, testicle clamps, etc. Great for the bargain BDSM player!
Cock & Ball Torture ♣ any form of restraint or orgasm control to a male's genitals. Can be used for play or punishment.
Cock Ring ♣ Rubber, metal, or leather type ring used to strap around the base of the cock and balls when soft. Increases blood flow to the genital area during self stimulation and sex. When released, causes minor pain during recurring blood flow.
Cock Worship ♣ Play which involves the fantasy of worshiping the cock. Performed mostly by the submissive to the Dominant. Scenes might include licking and / or fellatio. Even some female Dominants may use strappons that are worshiped by the submissive male or female.
Collar ♣ A collar worn around the neck to indicate one's submissiveness. These can be made of leather, steel, rubber, rope. Used in scenes for humiliation and / or examples such as dog, puppy or even boy, girls play.
Competitions (With Other Subs) ♣ Scenes involving competitive type sports or play with other submissive.
Corsets ♣ A lingerie / binding type device worn to restrict the chest area and make the waist smaller. Worn by early 19th Century women as a form of formal dress to make one's self more appealing to the opposite sex.
Crotch Torture ♣ Any form of torture to the male or female genital area.
Cuffs ♣ A leather or metal bondage device used to restrict movement. Usually locks around the limbs in order to place the submissive in a precarious position.
Diapers ♣ Waterproof panties or cloth worn in BDSM play for the object of child playing scenes. Also used in control scenes for controlling bodily functions.
Dilation ♣ In BDSM play dilation occurs when a speculum (pelvic exam device) is used to open the cervix for medical scene.
Dominant ♣ The label used to describe a partner who takes the active or controlling role within a BDSM scene, or within a BDSM relationship context. The function of tops and dominants is similar, and in many cases overlaps. For this reason, the terms are used interchangeably in some discussions, although there are differences between the two.
Dominant ♣ typically refers to the individual who has actual control of the BDSM context/relationship, exercising authority or power over (a) submissive partner(s). A dominant which exercises control over a large percentage of a submissive's day-to-day life, or within a formal framework of rules and rituals, is sometimes referred to as a master or mistress, although the use of these terms and consensus as to their meaning, is far from universal.
Double Penetration ♣ Play involving the penetration of two or more bodily orifices with various types of devices and / or genitalia, (i.e., penetration of the mouth / rectum / vagina, etc.)
Electricity ♣ Using electricity in BDSM play seems a scary notion to most people, but it can easily be made safe provided two simple rules are followed; only use devices powered by low voltage batteries, and certainly no main powered appliances; and avoid placing any contacts above the waist including hands or arms, as even small currents to the heart or brain can disrupt those organs' delicate electrical activity with serious consequences. Popular devices include "TENS" units designed for the relief of muscle and back pain; and "Violet Wands" which use a radio frequency discharge, and can be used above the waist provided the face is avoided.
Enemas ♣ A thorough anal cleaning involving a water bottle and tube. Most frequently used in medical scene although might also be used for control scenes as well.
Enforced Chastity ♣ In BDSM / S/m circles, meaning the banning or physically preventing one from achieving orgasm or any form of genital stimulation. A means of domination over one's submissive. A device (lockable) panty type which when worn prevents any type of genital stimulation. See also "Chastity belt"
Erotic Dance ♣ Scenes involving erotic dancing / stripping as a form of erotic pleasure; i.e. dancing / stripping to music.
Exercise ♣ Play which involves forcing one's submissive to exert physical exercise as a form of control / humiliation (may include lifting, running, weightlifting, etc.).
Exhibitionism. Scene involving the display of public / private exhibitionism in order to exert control and / or humiliation.
Eye Contact Restrictions ♣ Restricting one's submissive from any eye contact with the Dominant (i.e., forcing submissive to look away / look down). Control is enforced by the Dominant by refusing eye contact.
Face Slapping ♣ Involves play where a moderate amount of slapping of the face is used for humiliation / control.
Facesitting ou Queening ♣ sexual practice in which one partner sits on or over the other's face, typically to allow or force oral-genital or oral-anal contact, or to further ass worship or body worship. It is common for this position to form part of BDSM, involving dominance and submission, though this need not be the case. Within a BDSM or D/S context, face-sitting can be an especially intense form of erotic humiliation.
Fantasy Abandonment ♣ Play that involves the fantasy of abandonment. Possibly leaving the submissive in a deserted area or a public area for a short period of time in order to exert control and punishment.
Fantasy Rape ♣ Scenes where the Dominant fulfills a submissive's fantasy of rape.
Fantasy gang Rape ♣ Involves the same type of play where the Dominant fulfills a submissive's fantasy of rape with the exception of scene being performed by a group.
Fellatio ♣ Performing oral sex on a man's penis.
Fisting (Anal / Vaginal) ♣ Play which involves placing or attempting to place the entire hand (or even both hands) in the rectum / vagina. The hand is only formed into a fist, and once fully inserted, requires an extreme gentleness, care, and patience. Involves moving of the fist in and out of the orifice and can be a dangerous technique if not performed correctly.
Flogger ♣ A whip device usually with many "tails". Used on buttocks or back, generally to make nerve sensations greater. Floggers can be used on the genital areas. Can also be used for play or punishment.
Flogging horse ♣ A device used to secure one on this bench like, padded, sawhorse. Usually made waist height, with the use of tethers attached to wall or floor to secure the submissive. A well designed horse will allow open spread usage of the submissive when mounted properly upon.
Food Play ♣ Where the Dominant controls amount and type of food allowed to be consumed by the submissive. This includes liquid intake as well.
Foot Worship ♣ The practice of play involving a fetish for feet. Commonly used for domination and humiliation practices (i.e., licking / cleaning of the Dominant's feet).
Forced Bed wetting ♣ Forcing the submissive to purposely urinate in the bed. Most commonly used as a form of control / humiliation and in age play scenes.
Forced Dressing ♣ Forcing the submissive to dress however the Dominant sees fit, whether publicly or privately. Used generally for humiliation.
Force feeding ♣ A technique by which the Dominant controls the submissive's eating habits. Used to "fatten up" submissive or in age play games.
Forced Homosexuality ♣ Scenes where the submissive is forced into having sexual relations with someone of the same sex.
Forced Masturbation ♣ Scenes where the submissive is forced to perform masturbation in front of/for the Dominant or others as a form of erotic / sensual play or humiliation.
Forced Nudity ♣ A scene which involves forcing one's submissive to remain nude either privately or publicly. This is generally use as a form of control and humiliation.
Forced Servitude ♣ A form of play involving the submissive acting as a servant or a maid to the Dominant. May be played out in public or in private as a form of humiliation.
Forced Smoking ♣ Forcing the submissive to smoke (usually cigarettes); however, other various types of smoking are used in heavy S/m play.
Full head hoods ♣ A flexible covering for the head and sometimes neck. These come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and textures. Worn to prevent the sense of sight for erotic purposes.
Gags ♣ To restrict the use of the mouth by inserting a gag, in various textures (i.e., cloth, leather, ball gag, etc.).
Gas Mask ♣ A mask worn on the face connected to a chemical air filter and used to protect the face and lungs from toxic gases. Used mostly in heavy S/m scene.
Gates of Hell ♣ A type of cock ring worn around the base of the testicles and penis to restrict blood flow to the penis during erotic scene. Specially designed, this type of cock ring is usually made of metal and has several rings attached together, ranging from the largest at the base and going smaller toward the tip.
Genital Sex ♣ To cause an orgasm through the genital area, done strictly to the genital area with any body part or through the use of toys.
Given Away ♣ Where a Dominant releases a sub to another Dominant, without exchange of favours.
Golden Shower ♣ Play which involves urinating on one's submissive or vice versa.
Hairbrush Spanking ♣ Play which involves the use of a hairbrush to inflict pain on the buttocks. Commonly used in "naughty boy / girl" scenes for punishment.
Hand Jobs ♣ Using the hands to perform sexual gratification on a man's penis. Stroking of the penis to facilitate orgasm.
Harem ♣ To have more than one submissive in a scene or in daily life i.e., the Dominant has a "harem" of women and/or men.
Harness ♣ Bondage apparatus consisting of a network of straps designed to form a web over a large area of the body or head. Well known leather body harness for wearing around the upper torso. Harnesses can be constructed from a variety of materials. Some harnesses built properly are used in suspension.
Head ♣ To perform oral sex on the man's penis for erotic pleasure to facilitate orgasm.
High Heels ♣ Along with boots, these are the most fetishes items around. They combine the discomfort and pain of wearing them with the damage they can inflict when used as weapons. Some scenes may involve wearing, licking, cleaning, etc.
Homage ♣ Term meaning to pay respects to; homage; honour. A ceremony involving the submissive "honouring" the Dominant in some way, public or private. Could also mean paying "homage" to the penis / vagina, feet, breasts, etc.
Hot Oils ♣ The use of warmed oils for massaging or various other uses for erotic type play.
Hot Wax ♣ The process of using hot wax in scene. Candle wax is the most commonly used. It can be used on various parts of the body for erotic stimulation.
Housework ♣ Play involving the Dominant instructing the submissive to perform domestic duties as a form of punishment / control. Can sometimes also be used as erotic play, i.e. cleaning in the nude.
Humiliation ♣ To humiliate the submissive by requiring them to perform things they normally would not do, most commonly in public i.e. wearing revealing clothing; having sex in public; playing out puppy, boy / girl scenes, etc..
Hypnotism ♣ To place someone in a trance type state, and offer suggestions into certain types of behaviour. Safety note: This form of play is not for the novice.
Ice Play ♣ ice used on nipples or genital areas for desensitization of senses or nerves.
Immobilization ♣ Any form of bondage use to immobilizes someone; however, this term is usually used for extreme forms of bondage where the submissive literally cannot move a muscle. Not recommended for long periods of time.
Infantilism ♣ Scene where the submissive assumes the role of a child and/or an infant and is treated as such. i.e., diaper wearing, spankings, standing in corner, etc.
Initiation Rites ♣ BDSM Initiation rituals are designed to help a person or persons pass from one state into another, from being a non-member to a member; from feelings of inadequacy to adequacy; from adolescence to maturity. Also BDSM rituals can be used to celebrate an occasion (collaring or contract), anniversary, rite of passage (achievement, death, etc.), holidays, holydays, seasons or whatever theme the participants wish to commemorate or honour.
Injections ♣ To inject the body with a substance i.e. a saline solution, insulin, flu shots, drugs, etc. Usually performed with an hypodermic needle.
Intricate (Japanese) Rope Bondage ♣ A very complex form of bondage that is also quite beautiful to not only see but witness being performed. The submissive is also bonded in such a way as to allow easy access / removal of the device at any time.
Interrogations ♣ Term meaning question, systematically and formally. Commonly performed in "police interrogations"; police type scene. Commonly used for humiliation.
Kneeling ♣ To be used as a form of respect toward the Dominant. Making the submissive kneel when the Dominant enters the room, during scene, in public, etc.
Knife Play ♣ Cutting the surface of the skin with sharp objects, generally a knife, for the thrill, sensation, or pain. Use also to create decorative scars.
Leather ♣ Material made from the cured skin of animals. Wearing leather is a popular sexual fetish. Leather, especially the wearing of black leather gives the wearer a certain sense of power and is commonly worn in the BDSM scene by the Dominant. Also used for making floggers. Whips, etc
Licking ♣ Play involving licking of various body parts.
Lingerie ♣ Women's intimate apparel. Lace bodices, stockings, bras, panties, etc.
Manacles / Irons ♣ Metal rings joined by a chain to restrain the wrist or ankles.
Massage ♣ Using the hands to massage areas of the body. Possibly giving a massage to "warm up" or "foreplay" before play.
Masochism ♣ refers to gratification from receiving the infliction of pain or humiliation.
Medical Scenes ♣ Done in a room equipped and fitted as a physicians or surgeons office. This is a form of role play, where cavity exams, piercing, the use of needles, scalpels, equipment sounds are generally found.
Mentor ♣ Usually a well versed Dominant helping a submissive understands the lifestyle and their role in it. A Mentor guides another to achieve knowledge, not a teacher.
Mouth Bits ♣ A type of mouthpiece, generally used on horses and ponies that is inserted into the mouth and is used to bite down on. Used typically during pony girl / boy play scenes.
Mummification ♣ A specialized kind of bondage in which the whole body, including the head, if a breathing tube is used, is wrapped tightly to prevent any type of mobilization. Common types of materials are saran wrap, gaffa tape, or cloth or latex bandages. Holes are then sometimes made to allow access to the genital area.
Munch ♣ A social gathering of people into BDSM people, usually in a restaurant, with the people dressed in "regular clothing" to keep it discrete. Munches are also considered a great way to safely meet other people in the BDSM lifestyle.
Nipple Clamps ♣ Clamp type devices placed on the nipples during play to stimulate and stop blood flow to the nipple. One of the general household items to be used is clothespins.
Nipple Rings ♣ A ring that is worn through the nipple. Piercing of the nipple and inserting a ring, similar to nose piercing. This type of piercing stimulates the nipple.
Orgasm ♣ Intense excitement resulting in an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the height of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen by the male and by vaginal contractions in the woman.
Orgasm Control ♣ When one is forced to release or hold their body's desires to orgasm. Can be used in play or punishment.
Parachute ♣ Round leather device which is fitted between the scrotum and the base of the penis with chains for weights to be added. This is a form of play, or punishment.
Piercing ♣ Piercing of the body with a thin sharp object such as a needle. There are two types of play, permanent and temporary. Permanent piercing is done with a thicker needle which enables jewellery to be easily inserted. Temporary piercing is done with a smaller, thinner needle which can be removed without permanent scarring after the session is completed. i.e., nipple piercing, ear piercing, genital piercing. Mostly done to enhance the sensual areas of the skin. Piercing should be done be a professional.
Pony gear ♣ This type of gear includes hoods, bits for mouth, bridles, straps, harnesses, saddles and anal plug tails. Some use hoof shoes as well. These are used to "train" a submissive to be used for work, as a pony. This can be very dangerous as joints, limbs or back maybe damaged.
Pony Slave ♣ Scenes involving the submissive being dressed or made up as to portray a "pony". Scenes might include mouth bits, harnesses, saddles, riding crops, etc. Note: Riding your pony can cause serious damage to their backs, hips, joints.
Prison Scene ♣ Acting out a scene, by using a cell is for punishment and humiliation.
Prostitution ♣ The selling of one's body for sexual purposes (i.e., selling sex or sexual favours).
Public Exposure ♣ Play which involves exposing oneself in public (i.e., flashing). Also used for control and humiliation purposes.
Punishment ♣ Scenes where the Dominant punishes the submissive for "bad or unruly" behaviour. Often performed in little boy or girl scenes which may involve spankings, timeouts, etc.
Pussy Worship ♣ The practice of play involving the "worship" of the female genitalia. Scenes may involve the cleaning, licking, shaving, etc. In general, "worship" is a form of erotic play.
Rack ♣ A table like device which is fitted with pulling or stretching capabilities. Some racks incorporate pulleys, winches or wheels for pulling one in opposing directions. Paddles or whips are generally used on the person on a rack.
Religious Scene ♣ A form of play where the submissive is usually dressed in nun's or clerical attire.
Riding Crop ♣ A short whip type instrument made of leather with a "loop" at the end which is intended for use on horses. May be used in scenes involving pony boy or girl type play. Riding crops are used to administer punishment, as well.
Rimming ♣ Mouth contact with the rectal area, which includes insertion of the tongue.
Rope bondage ♣ There are many styles of rope work from simple to very intricate. study of knots is important to anyone wishing to attempt this play.
Rubber / Latex Clothing ♣ Besides leather, this type of clothing is the next best thing. One example may be a rubber hood. Some bondage items are made out of latex sheeting, and as with leather, black seems to be the most popular color by far.
Saint Andrews Cross ♣ This is a cross made in an X formation. It is generally angled and self-supporting. Some are suspended from ceilings, or mounted directly to a wall. The cross has leather restraints for arms, legs and body; some have hooks along the edges for a person to be "laced" to the cross. Used for sexual play, or punishment can be administered while attached to the cross.
Saran Wrap ♣ Plastic wrapping used most commonly to wrap leftover food. In BDSM play, used most likely in "bondage" scenes.
Scratching ♣ Scratching the body with the fingernails or another instrument for mild pain.
Sensory Deprivation ♣ Play which involves "depriving" the submissive of certain sensory perceptions. Which can include blindfolds, bondage, gags, etc?
Shibari ♣ The art of Intricate Japanese Rope Bondage. Bondage patterns are intricate, and artistically pleasing.
Slave ♣ In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual (the submissive) gives to another (the dominant) ultimate authority over them. It is a form of dominance and submission or total power exchange. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship is structured in terms of slavery, because of the association of the term with ownership of the slave and the rights of a master to their body, as property or chattel.
Slings ♣ Slings are made in many designs and shapes, but their use is to open access to the genitalia for play or punishment. This form of suspension causes fatigue rather quickly, so aftercare should be taken as well as care during such use.
Spandex ♣ A formfitting, stretchy type material that clings to the body (i.e., most women's pantyhose are made of spandex). When worn can be quite comfortable and look extremely sexy when worn on "tight bodies".
Spanking ♣ involves striking someone with the palm of the hand or other object (i.e., paddle, hairbrush, pig slapper, riding crop, etc.) on the buttocks as a form of punishment / humiliation. Mild spanking can be very erotic and when done correctly can push the submissive into "subspace" releasing endorphins which in turn creates a sense of euphoria.
Speculum ♣ A medical instrument intended for the use of medical examination of the vagina or rectum, made of steel or plastic in the shape of a duckbill. The speculum is lubricated and inserted. After insertion, the "bill" is spread apart to open the cervix in the vagina. In BDSM play, commonly used in medical scene.
Spreader Bar ♣ A bar type device used to "spread" apart arms / legs of the submissive. Bars can be made of common, inexpensive materials such as dowel rods, pvc pipe, broomsticks, etc.
Strapping ♣ A length of material, most commonly leather, used for striking the body.
Stretchers ♣ Generally made of wooden dowel rods or metal tubing, having eyelets to secure a submissive's arms, legs apart for play. These are very portable, to use anywhere. Stretchers come in various lengths, usually 24 inches to 48 inches.
Subspace ♣ A mental altered state in which a person can be taken to. Space is a form of hypnotism that can be self attained, or a Dominant can aid to obtain. Subspace is used for sexual pleasure, and can be utilized to convert pain to pleasure. After care is mandatory, as is constant monitoring.
Submissive ♣ One who gives freely of themselves for the pleasures of another. A subordinate with negotiated limits.
Swapping ♣ The "swapping" of one's partner generally for sexual and erotic play. Switching partners temporarily for play purposes.
Switch ♣ One who "switches" between Dominant / submissive roles, i.e. from scene to scene or within a scene. Some switches may submit to one Dominant, and dominate others, etc.
Table Play ♣ A padded table, where the submissive is restrained for play. The table has many securing points to offer different positions for play or examination. Tables can be used as racks if outfitted accordingly.
Tampon Training ♣ Tampons inserted into the rectum, used as an anal plug, for play or punishment.
Tattoo ♣ A permanent form of scarring to the body in the form of various types of pictures or drawings or names, etc. A permanent form of "marking the submissive" as a property.
Teasing ♣ The act of "teasing" to enhance erotic play or pleasure. Teasing the partner in such a way as to stimulate sexual pleasure.
Thigh Cuffs ♣ A simple belt around the waist with connectors around it to restrict the submissive's movement of arms and legs.
Thumb Cuffs ♣ Restraining devices used for restraint by the thumbs.
Ticklers ♣ These are 16 to 18 inch rods with a tiny *flogger* attached on the end. Great for small areas where precision impacts are desired. Other ticklers include feathers, sandpaper, etc.
Tickling ♣ tickling the body to induce laughter. Often used in age play scenes.
Top ♣ typically refers to the individual who is the physical actor within the BDSM context: i.e. they are the one applying the techniques of a sexual/sensual/psychological activity – such as in flogging, bondage, servitude, or humiliation – upon the bottom partner(s).
Trainer ♣ A Dominant who helps submissive understand the sexual aspects of the lifestyle. Study and play sessions are the normal negotiations.
Uniform ♣ Play which involves the submissive wearing a "uniform". Uniforms such as nurse, police officer, cheerleader, maid etc. Commonly used in role-playing scenes.
Urethral Play ♣ Play involving the "urethra", the tube that runs between the bladder and the outside of the body. In men, it emerges at the end of the penis, and in women, just inside the vagina. With the exception of the very end, this tube is sterile, and anything inserted deeper than a few millimetres should be sterile as well. Note: Serious damage can occur by inserting inappropriate devices, using excessive force, or by bad technique.
Vibrator ♣ A dildo type device made in varying shapes and sizes and powered by either battery or plug-in electrical type. Used as a form of genital stimulation most commonly for women to promote orgasm.
Violet Wand ♣ A device used commonly in electrical type play which discharges radio energy when, touched to the body produces electrical sparks. The sensation is similar to "static cling" charges.
Voyeurism ♣ Term meaning the act of watching, peeping. In BDSM play, means to watch someone engage in sex or other forms of sensual and/or erotic play.
Waxing ♣ warmed wax as a form of erotic sensation. Common areas of waxing are the buttocks, breast area, back, etc. The process of using hot wax in scene. The wax most commonly used are candles. Note: Some types of wax, beeswax for instance, have a tendency to become extremely hot during burning and should always be done carefully to prevent permanent burning/scarring of the skin.
Whipping Post ♣ Designs vary according to builder, but the principle is to have a tall post with tethers that hang down, to attach a person from their wrists. Used for positioning a submissive for ease of whipping. Some Dominants use the "whipping post" for punishment only, and never for play.